Behavior isn't always the Mirror of Personality

Ego, what people think of it isn't the way it actually is. 

Some people see it as the identity of a rude, argumentative, obnoxious to talk with kind of person, but in reality that might not be the case.

Some men use it as the defense system in flow of what others say or think but the drawback is, it completely takes over their identity. Living under the hood of ego is like living in a virtual world where everything works and seems apt to the eyes of the person.You can witness it as this entity within your field of consciousness operating under the guise of identity. 

Some people have a little ego that does no harm to anyone, but some have so strong magnitude of it that it creates kind of very strong repelling magnetic fields due to which it seams like banging your head on the wall while talking to them.

But in reality they are not like that inside and as it is said "People aren't wrong, their habits are", there are some ways to understand people with strong ego:-

• Ego is their defensive shield : They lack self-love, self-worth, so by building themselves externally (through bodily training,materials,wealth reputation,etc), they are supplementing their deep sense of lacking. Ego is a sign of disharmony deep inside the spirit.They are trying to create cosmetic personal value. Talking personally, when I feel disgusted and lack self-worth within my deep subconscious brain, I want to work out often. Similar to the old analogy of how bullies come from the parents who bully them, people with big ego often act from a place of depression and insecurity. Beneath the mask is a boy or a girl who needs some healing to be done. I am just saying that ego might be a secret door leading to the wounds dated to youth and childhood.
• Pain changes a person in thousand different ways: When you come across a person who gets on your nerves, don't feed your ego in return, try to understand their pain. Feeding your ego juices them up an protecting their defense systems of the ego castle in which resides all the feelings and emotions he/she could be hiding from rest of the world. Give them the energy of acceptance and love and you'll be amazed by the results.
• Self-Loving and Self-Worth: Loving yourself and staying centered in heart and mind may reveal the new doors of vision which no one even bothers to see. Do you really think any egoistic person could have got under the skin of  Buddha?? or any self portraying men with high attitude could have turned Jesus' temper up ?? Taking part in conversations with people who's words contain enough toxicity lethal for your peace of mind. They may shift the center of your spirit and alter the way you think and behave. Dealing with them is like nullifying a great part of your bright, warm and positive energy with dark, cold and negative energy. People anticipate most of the future happenings which never happen and then the rest of the work of manifesting them is done by the brain which indeed leads to anxiety and depression of the event which will probably happen but the probability of happening is not "ONE"

Their ego is like a shield to defend, mask to pretend, Ups and downs to deal and wounds to heal.So don't take them too seriously.